How Do I Stop Sinning? Overcoming Your Worst Sins

How Do You Stop Sinning? Why Do I Keep Sinning? Biblical ansers

We cannot stop sins on our own. But through Jesus Christ all things are possible.

 

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Overcoming Your Worst Sins The Biblical Way 

These are all valid questions that Christians face. No matter where you live, your age or your background, all Christians will be tried and tested with sin in their lives. Living in a world full of sinful temptation makes the battle for Christian purity that much tougher. But the Bible of course, holds the solution to battling and in some cases, eliminating certain sins in your life. This article will explore one of the methods to overcoming your worst sins and keeping them away for good.

The story of King Josiah is a remarkable account of spiritual revival and re-dedication to God in a time of deep sin. Josiah, who became King of Judah at age 8 after his father King Amon was assassinated, led a sinful nation back to holy living and a right relationship with the Lord. Through his actions, a pattern emerges that every Christian can apply to help overcome sin.

Know Your Condition

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“for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.” – 1 Samuel 16:7.

Josiah’s grandfather, King Manasseh, was one of the worst, most wicked Israelite kings of all time. The king was the spiritual leader of the nation and Manasseh’s reign was one of the lowest points for pure evil, rebellion and satanic behavior:

And [King Manasseh] did that which was evil in the sight of the LORD, after the abominations of the heathen, whom the LORD cast out before the children of Israel. For he built up again the high places which Hezekiah his father had destroyed; and he reared up altars for Baal, and made a grove, as did Ahab king of Israel; and worshipped all the host of heaven, and served them.

 

And he built altars in the house of the LORD, of which the LORD said, In Jerusalem will I put my name. And he built altars for all the host of heaven in the two courts of the house of the LORD. And he made his son pass through the fire, and observed times, and used enchantments, and dealt with familiar spirits and wizards: he wrought much wickedness in the sight of the LORD, to provoke him to anger. And he set a graven image of the grove that he had made in the house, of which the LORD said to David, and to Solomon his son, In this house, and in Jerusalem, which I have chosen out of all tribes of Israel, will I put my name for ever: – 2 Kings 21:2-7.

This list is staggering for the amount of evil Manasseh had fallen into. He built altars of worship to the false gods of the Canaanites, Israel’s enemies. He worshiped Baal, one of the chief pagan gods of that time. In the temple of God, the holiest place in all of the world, he set up altars to worship demons and fallen angels. The King consulted with wizards and communicated with “familiar spirits”, which were demons that impersonated the dead. He even took a graven image of a false god and placed it inside the temple, the very place where God Himself would reveal His presence once a year. On top of all this, Scripture tells us that he performed an occult ritual sacrifice of his own son, causing him to “pass through the fire” or burning his child alive as an offering to a pagan god. This man’s evil is stunning and the Bible says he “led the nation” in performing evil.

Amon, the son of Manasseh, continued all of the evil of his father and reigned only 2 years before being assassinated. And this was the state of the Kingdom of Judah when Josiah took the throne. God’s chosen people, the Israelites, had fallen deep into rebellion. And this is a picture of how far a Christian can fall today. Thought a Christian is not committing the same sins as Manasseh, they can fall into rebellion from the “small sins” in life. The first step to stopping sin is to recognize it. Lying, stealing, being covetous and blasphemy are all evil in the sight of the Lord just as worshiping a pagan god. Sexual sins – whether it be pre-marital sex, watching pornography, adultery or lusting for another person who is not your spouse, are all sins that are can pull a person into a feeling of addictive behavior, where it seems like there is no way to stop the urges to disobey the Lord.

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The internet can be a gateway to sinful temptation.

The Bible says with regards to sexual sin:

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? – 1 Corinthians 6:18-19.

If you are a born again Christian, your body is literally the temple for the Holy Ghost, who you received at the moment you believed in the Lord Jesus Christ.  Notice that the the Apostle Paul explains this concept in the context of sexual sin. Fornication, which is sexual activity outside of marriage, is just as sacrilegious and disrespectful to the temple of God as Manasseh setting up satanic altars. How have you treated the temple of the Holy Ghost? Have you protected your body from sin? Have you kept it pure from demonic and satanic influence? Have you kept your eyes and mind away from sinful sexual imagery and thoughts?  Have you used your body to seduce others into evil? We all have committed these sins in one form or another. So understand that The Lord sees this as pure rebellion against Him and will judge any Christian who is committing such sin. Thankfully, Scripture provides an example in King Josiah of how to get out of this sinful state.

Put your focus on The Lord

 

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Getting deeper into God’s Word will help avoid sin.

And [King Josiah] did that which was right in the sight of the LORD, and walked in all the way of David his father, and turned not aside to the right hand or to the left. And it came to pass in the eighteenth year of king Josiah, that the king sent Shaphan the son of Azaliah, the son of Meshullam, the scribe, to the house of the LORD, saying, Go up to Hilkiah the high priest, that he may sum the silver which is brought into the house of the LORD, which the keepers of the door have gathered of the people: And let them deliver it into the hand of the doers of the work, that have the oversight of the house of the LORD: and let them give it to the doers of the work which is in the house of the LORD, to repair the breaches of the house..2 Kings 22:2-5.

Despite the rampant sin around him, Josiah was seeking God. He walked “in all the way of David his father”, meaning he was not going to serve false gods, but only worship the true and Living God of the Bible. And he wanted to repair the temple, that had was neglected and damaged over the years of his father’s and grandfather’s reign. In order to overcome sin, a Christian has to acknowledge it and have a heart to get right with God. If you are reading this article, that is a sign that you want to remove sin from your life. [B&E: And this article is specifically for those who are born-again Christian believers, whose sins, past, present and future are already forgiven. If you are not 100% sure that you are going to Heaven when you die, please see our Gospel page first].

Repent

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Confess yours sins to God and pray for His Spirit to continue to work in your life.

And Hilkiah the high priest said unto Shaphan the scribe, I have found the book of the law in the house of the LORD. And Hilkiah gave the book to Shaphan, and he read it… And Shaphan the scribe shewed the king, saying, Hilkiah the priest hath delivered me a book. And Shaphan read it before the king. And it came to pass, when the king had heard the words of the book of the law, that he rent his clothes. And the king commanded Hilkiah the priest, and Ahikam the son of Shaphan, and Achbor the son of Michaiah, and Shaphan the scribe, and Asahiah a servant of the king’s, saying, Go ye, enquire of the LORD for me, and for the people, and for all Judah, concerning the words of this book that is found: for great is the wrath of the LORD that is kindled against us, because our fathers have not hearkened unto the words of this book, to do according unto all that which is written concerning us. — 2 Kings: 22:6-13.

The Kingdom was so far gone into sin that “the book of the law”, the first 5 books of the Bible (which was the entire Bible for Jews at that point in history) was lost! There were no Bibles in use at all in the Kingdom of Judah. The High Priest happened to find a copy of one during the temple reconstruction project. Josiah at this point was 23 years old and had never even read the actual words of the Bible. But when he heard it, he immediately repented. He understood just how sinful the nation had been and how much of God’s wrath was kindled against them. Where there is sin, there must be repentance. Do not hesitate to get into prayer and confess your sins to God.

Scripture is clear: “If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:8-9).
Frequent, repeated sin is almost always a sign of lack of time spent in Scripture and prayer. Some Christians have several Bibles in their home, but without reading them regularly, the “book of the law” is just as lost as it was in the days of Josiah. Commit to daily Scripture reading as a way to strengthen your walk, prepare your mind for battling temptation and to increase your faith. As the Book of Romans says: “So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.” (Romans 10:17). You cannot change your behavior on your own. Every person, Christian included, has a sin nature that continues to desire sin as long as we are in our earthly flesh. But it is The Lord who has changed you through faith in Jesus Christ and will continue to work on you through the presence of the Holy Spirit within you.

The refining of a Christian is a supernatural process and trying to use “willpower” or “determination” alone will lead to failure. It is The Lord who works change in us and seeking Him daily is essential to living for Him. Jesus Christ taught: “the words that I speak unto you, they are spirit, and they are life.” (John 6:63). Fill yourself with God’s Spirit! Reading the Bible daily and praying several times a day make it very, very hard to live a wild life of constant sinful rebellion. It is God’s Word that will increase your faith, convict you of sin and bring you to repentance and seeking forgiveness from The Lord.

Now some people at this point may say “I do these things. I acknowledge my sin. I truly feel bad when I commit them and I confess them to God. But yet, I still fall back into the same old sinful habits.” Well beloved, understand, that Josiah was just getting started in his battle against sinful rebellion and so are you.

Commit To Live Holy

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Removing sinful behavior from our lives is our reasonable service.

And the king sent, and they gathered unto him all the elders of Judah and of Jerusalem. And the king went up into the house of the LORD, and all the men of Judah and all the inhabitants of Jerusalem with him, and the priests, and the prophets, and all the people, both small and great: and he read in their ears all the words of the book of the covenant which was found in the house of the LORD. And the king stood by a pillar, and made a covenant before the LORD, to walk after the LORD, and to keep his commandments and his testimonies and his statutes with all their heart and all their soul, to perform the words of this covenant that were written in this book. And all the people stood to the covenant.

 

And the king commanded Hilkiah the high priest, and the priests of the second order, and the keepers of the door, to bring forth out of the temple of the LORD all the vessels that were made for Baal, and for the grove, and for all the host of heaven: and he burned them without Jerusalem in the fields of Kidron, and carried the ashes of them unto Bethel. -2 Kings 23:1-4.

Josiah made a commitment to live for God and stop the cycle of sinful rebellion that was plaguing the nation. And the foundation of that was The Word of God. The King gathered the entire nation and read them the Bible as the opening of his pledge to lead the people in living for The Lord. Notice he did not make the commitment in private. He made it publicly. Are you ready to stop sinning? Tell people. You do not have to tell them all of your business, but you should let your family and friends know that you have committed to living holier and no longer sinning in the ways you have in the past. This not only holds you accountable to those around you, it is a way to serve as a witness of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. As a Christian, your life is your testimony. How you live can affect the ways those around you see the Christian faith. What do those close to see as your Christian testimony?

Josiah followed up his commitment by destroying the vessels made to false gods that were in the temple. This is yet another challenging aspect of overcoming sin. Whatever objects in your life that help contribute to your sinful behavior need to be removed from your life. If it is sinful music or DVDs, throw them away. If they are pornographic or inappropriate websites, have someone place a password-coded filter on your computer that can block the websites you do not want to go too (or just remove the electronics altogether). If your temptation is New Age books or occult-themed entertainment, get rid of them. It may be alcohol or drugs which may  require more intense methods such as a hospital or rehabilitation center, but the first step is getting rid of your “supply.”
Similarly, if there are places that lead you into more temptation, whether it is a strip club, a certain person’s home, parties, the shopping mall, Facebook, a bar or night club, then cease from them. Galatians 5 explains how critical this spiritual battle is to the Christian life:

For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would. But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law. Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God… And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. – Galatians 5:17-24.

As long as we are still in our sinful flesh bodies, we have a constant war between our born again Spirit, which only seeks to serve God and the sinful lust that remains in us. And if you are of Christ, the command is to “crucify the flesh” – or in other words, destroy the sinful ways in your life. But notice that same verse commands the crucifying of the “affections and lusts” as well. And this is where more of a challenge comes in – are you ready to stop sinning backsliding? Do you really desire it enough to stop going to the places that lead you into sin? This is what the Bible commands Christians to do who want to live after the Spirit and not the flesh.
Living for God is not just about resisting temptation to sin – it is also about avoiding the temptation altogether. 2 Corinthians 10 says: “For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds. Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;” The easiest way to get rid of sinful imaginations and bring your thoughts to be more Christ-like is to find the things that are defiling the temple that is your body and remove them from your life.

This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. – Galatians 5:16.

Get Rid of Your Idolatrous Priests

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Certain friends are always ready to lead you back into sinful behavior.

And he brought out the grove from the house of the LORD, without Jerusalem, unto the brook Kidron, and burned it at the brook Kidron, and stamped it small to powder, and cast the powder thereof upon the graves of the children of the people….And he put down the idolatrous priests, whom the kings of Judah had ordained to burn incense in the high places in the cities of Judah, and in the places round about Jerusalem; them also that burned incense unto Baal, to the sun, and to the moon, and to the planets, and to all the host of heaven…And he slew all the priests of the high places that were there upon the altars, and burned men’s bones upon them, and returned to Jerusalem…

 

Moreover the workers with familiar spirits, and the wizards, and the images, and the idols, and all the abominations that were spied in the land of Judah and in Jerusalem, did Josiah put away, that he might perform the words of the law which were written in the book that Hilkiah the priest found in the house of the LORD. – 2 Kings 23:3-24.

Many of the toughest sins to overcome involve other people. Whether it is a someone from a relationship that involves fornication, friends who lead you into sinful behavior, someone you enjoy gossiping about others with or maybe fellow gang members, there is no shortage of people in one’s life who can serve to pull you away from following the Lord Jesus Christ and instead serving sin. There are even people you may not speak to who lead you into sinful thoughts whether they be sexual, feelings of envy, racist hatred or mockery. King Josiah was well aware of the many people who were assisting Satan in providing temptation into evil and made it his mission to remove every last person who was leading the nation into sinful rebellion and idolatry. This was not a casual effort. Josiah traveled the nation removing and in some cases killing those wicked priests. And this of course is an example for our own lives, that while we should not harm anyone who leads us into sin, we should certainly no longer have them as major factors in our lives.
Again, the question arises: are you serious about overcoming your worst sins? If so, then the people in your life who participate, contribute or help lead you into rebellion against God should not be so influential in your life. If this sounds extreme, it should beloved. Look at the extreme lengths that Josiah went to in order to reconcile his nation back to God and end the downward spiral of sin. Friends can be a major influence in leading a Christian into rebellion. So if they are a major source of continuing in your worst sins, limit the interaction with those people. Share the Gospel with those friends and let them know you have no desire to participate in those sinful acts with them anymore. If the pressure from those friends is too great to bear, then cease from spending time with them.

 

In some cases you do not have to, or sometimes cannot, disassociate with people. If there is a family member who you are angered with, cannot stand or leads you into sin, reconcile with them. If this is not possible at present, then try to limit interaction with that person. If it is your own spouse that is driving you to extreme anger, bitterness and resentment, forgive them. God has forgiven you for all of your worst, most evil sins and thoughts, without condition. And you are to forgive in a similar fashion. Ephesians 4 says: “If so be that ye have heard him, and have been taught by him, as the truth is in Jesus: That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts; And be renewed in the spirit of your mind; And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness… Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil.”  The things or people who arouse sinful desires in us are “places” for the Enemy to gain a foothold and introduce more temptation to commit that sin. The reader would do well to remove them to the best extent possible.

If you are in a sinful dating relationship and think: “I love my girlfriend/boyfriend. How am I supposed to just end our relationship?”, there is a simple solution: marry them. The Bible says: “Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband…for it is better to marry than to burn.” (1 Corinthians 7). If you are so attached to a person who you are in a sinful sexual relationship with, the Bible commands you to get married. If you are not ready to marry that person, then you are just using the relationship to serve your own rebellious lusts and it should be ended if it cannot be kept holy (as in dating without fornication). Jesus Christ said: “He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me.” (Matthew 10:37). Putting relationships with people who lead you into sinful behavior over your relationship with the Lord and Savior Jesus Christ is on par with not taking up your cross to follow Him. So again, the question is, are you serious about overcoming your sin? If the answer is yes, the steps from Scripture are clear.


Call Upon The Lord

 

“I sought the Lord, and he heard me, and delivered me from all my fearsThis poor man cried, and the Lord heard him, and saved him out of all his troubles. The angel of the Lord encampeth round about them that fear him, and delivereth them.” – Psalm 34:4-7.

 

When you find the temptations of challenging sins returning, call upon the name of Jesus Christ. Pray to God for help with that specific sin in your time of testing.  1 Corinthians 10 says: “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.” In any sinful temptation that seems too hard to resist, pray to The Lord for that escape at the time you are experiencing the temptation. King David, after falling deep into the sin of adultery and murder said: “Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.”  Pray for a right spirit when Satan challenges you.

The Blessing

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“[God] he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.” – Hebrews 11:6.

Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. –Psalm 1:1-2.

When a man’s ways please the LORD, he maketh even his enemies to be at peace with him. – Proverbs 16:7.

Thus saith the LORD God of Israel, As touching the words which thou hast heard; Because thine heart {Josiah] was tender, and thou hast humbled thyself before the LORD, when thou heardest what I spake against this place, and against the inhabitants thereof, that they should become a desolation and a curse, and hast rent thy clothes, and wept before me; I also have heard thee, saith the LORD. – 2 Kings 22:8-9.

 

The Kingdom of Judah was so far gone into sin, that God had declared a judgment against them to punish the people for their evil. However, because of Josiah’s amazing efforts to cleanse the nation of its sin and remove the places of evil in the land, The Lord provided a reprieve of His judgment for the entire life of the young King. The entire nation was spared God’s wrath for years, providing more people time to repent. Christians today can avoid the chastening of God by living for Him and showing how serious you are about removing the worst, most difficult sins in your lives. Jesus Christ said: “If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.” You can be freed from the bondage of sin. You can conquer lustful desires. But it is done through the power of Jesus Christ. And in your efforts, you will continue to be blessed by The Lord.

There is no sure-fire way to remove all the sins in your life. The account of Josiah is just one of many examples in Scripture that show that individual sins can be conquered. Before being saved, the Apostle Paul spent years hunting down Christians, delivering them for punishment and execution.  And it took one encounter with Jesus Christ to bring that horrible sin to an end.  The Apostle Peter denied even knowing who Jesus Christ was three times and then went on to proclaim the name of Christ to the point that he was killed for being so outspoken. Did they ever sin again? Of course. The great men and women of the Bible were just human beings going through the same daily fight against sin like we all do. But through Jesus Christ they did overcome certain sins and were blessed for deciding to live for God over living for the world.  God will bless you for committing yourself to battle against sins that are plaguing you. And while every Christian (this author included) will continue to sin as long as we are alive in these earthly bodies, we can trust and know that God will forgive us and give us strength and faith to fight even harder.

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  1. This is what I needed. Thank you, B+E. God bless.

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  2. Brandon says:

    Thanks B&E. So encouraging, just what I needed. I struggle with temptation daily and God’s word through his son Jesus Christ is so uplifting. The verses you used are spot on and I really needed to hear them today. This article couldn’t have had more perfect timing, it’s truly a Godsend. I feel like I can take on the world!!

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  3. I dont know what better way to say thank you. All these years of battle with sin, i either did 2 things: get angry at God or continue purposefully sinning but now i know the truth and it has set me free. May God continue to bless and strenghten you in Jesus name. :)

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  4. agatha majuba says:

    Please help me pray to beat sin in my life, I keep coming back to the same thing and it becomes worse I resent and stop fornication with different men,drinking smoking in tarvens masterbation and pornography and like you mentioned enjoy doing it with friends, when I conquer I even stop ggoing to them and they I feel bad about allowing ppl to feel I am not honestly serving my Lord I wish for them to also repent! I know I am strong and have a calling I need my way home@sad@confused! I keep asking myself who is this? Referring to myself. I contracted HIV after I left my husband of 16 years who used to cheat and had a baby by a 21 year old, our marriage was painful for very long I kept forgiving him and though he will change but I don’t want to blame him for my own sins, I came back to my childhood village and was preaching the word to my old sinning friends now I sin with them! I feel like a blasphemer!

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    • Hi Agatha,

      Thank you for your comments and testimony. I am sorry that you have fallen back into old sins and for your HIV transmission. But the fact that you feel sad and remorseful about your sin is proof that God’s Holy Spirit is convicting you of your sin. It is evidence that you have faith! So be of good cheer. God is with you. What you need to do is repent. It is time to employ the same tactics for overcome sin that are listed in Scripture and take a season away from your friends who you sin with. It is easy to feel like a hypocrite when you proclaim Christ and Christian living and then sin with those same people you preached to. But that does not change your mission to live for our Savior. Do not let your sadness over sin stop you from believing that you are saved.

      Jesus took your punishment, so once you repent, if you believe in the Lord Jesus, stop feeling sorry and dwelling on it. Stop feeling that you are unworthy. You are made worthy because of Jesus’ work on the cross. He did the work to take your sin. He did the work to have you declared righteous and sinless before the Father. Colossians 1:14 says of born again believers in Christ: “In whom we have redemption through his blood, [even] the forgiveness of sins: So repent and believe you are forgiven. And then commit to living better. Remove yourself from the party scene. It is clearly a big stumblingblock. Remove yourself from the pornography and people who lure you into fornication. This is not easy. It is some of the most difficult sinful temptations (as this author certainly can attest), but removing those influences from your presence will go a long way to overcome them. And fill yourself with The Lord.

      I am praying for you and our whole team will have you in our prayers this week. May God give you His grace and faith to battle against these temptations and for your health and strength. Give the enemy no space. And instead, give that space and free time to The Lord. Pray, read the Bible, go to church and fellowship with real believers. Give God room to make the change in you and for you. God bless.

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  5. londonhermit says:

    So beginning and end are you saying that you have not sinned since you’ve been saved?

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    • Hi Londonhermit,

      “And while every Christian (this author included) will continue to sin as long as we are alive in these earthly bodies, we can trust and know that God will forgive us and give us strength and faith to fight even harder.”

      No, I am not saying I am without sin. I am saying the exact opposite.

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  6. Thank you so much B&E for a fresh approach to the way believers struggle with sin. I myself struggle with sexual sin. I find that MANY real Christians do. I often wonder why those types have such a strong grip. Any thoughts? I easily stopped clubbing,smoking,drinking and cursing but fornication has not been so easily mastered. I know God is doing a work because I have such a strong desire to please God and I feel so sad when I give in. For years I would fornicate and not think twice about it, but now it REALLY bothers me . . At this point I am willing to walk away from a well established relationship if need be. NOTHING is more important than my relationship with God. I love the man I’m with but I love my heavenly father more. So to lose is to gain. I ask that you pray my strength as I grow closer to the Lord.

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    • Hi Tala,

      Thank you so much for your comments and kind words. Praise Jesus in Heaven that this was a blessing to you. The simple truth is that sexual desire is a powerful force in the human body. So while not everyone will have struggles with sexual temptation, many people will. Our bodies were made to reproduce. But just as our mouths being made to speak does NOT give us a license to curse and say all sorts of bad things, our sexual urges do not give us a license to fornication. We are to live our lives God’s way and reserve intimacy for the context of marriage.

      But Satan of course knows the powerful temptation this is and has influenced society to bombard us with sexual imagery, music and thoughts in every way possible. At the same time, as we become more “modern” and “liberated” all manner of sexual sin, not only become acceptable, but are celebrated.

      In the case of women, particularly in the past two generations, one of the greatest deceptions has been equating sexuality with “freedom” or “power.” In other words, women should fornicate with no thought of consequence because it shows their “equality” with men and is an “expression of freedom and women’s rights.” Nothing could be farther from the truth. Intimacy does not provide any greater respect for a women, much less rampant sin of that nature. It is degrading for a woman and a man and while it’s true that women are often seen in a worse light than men, it does not excuse it.

      But Satan wants to remove any negative stigma from intimacy outside of marriage so women will act with no conscience and concern for God’s judgment.

      The other problem is being unequally yoked. Dating unbelievers who do not respect God, truly believe in Jesus Christ or have any concern for Biblical living, will of course making maintaining purity a lot more difficult. Because the constant pressure to sin will be there on a daily basis. And choosing not to sin will often lead to negative consequences in the relationship (like the guy feeling rejected, frustrated or that he needs to “look elsewhere”). All this can be avoided by dating someone who is an actual Bible-believing Christian who believes in obeying God. This is why the Bible says: ” Neither give place to the devil. ” (Ephesians 4:27). Dating non-believers invites Satan’s influence directly into your life. But dating a true Christian is being with someone who understands that even if you are saved, if you are in sin, God will chasten you. And if you continue on in an active sinful lifestyle with no repentance, it will be even worse. Someone who respects and loves God and wants to lead you spiritually.

      So these are just some things to consider. I am praying for your spiritual strength in the face of such great temptation. In those moments, pray. Go to verses on fornication and memorize them. Build yourself up with God’s Spirit so you are ready when the challenge comes. May God bless you abundantly.

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  7. aduragbemi says:

    i tank God for this article. I nid your prayers because i have been in sexual sin for a long time and so each time i want to stop, dirty thought keep flashing in my mind and then i go back to sin. I want to stop this backsliding act and return fully to God. I tank God for this article because it has made me see d need to feed more on God’s word and prayer to be able to overcome sin. But what can i do if dirty thought coming into my mind? Thank You.

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    • Hi aduragbemi,

      Thanks for your comments. If you really want to battle against these thoughts as the article stated, the first thing is to remove things that can bring that influence in your life. You know things that are in your life that can bring this kind of temptation. The next thing is to fill yourself with God’s Word:

      With my whole heart have I sought thee: O let me not wander from thy commandments. 11 Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee. 12 Blessed art thou, O Lord: teach me thy statutes. – Psalm 119-10-12.

      The Bible is clear – if you want to sin less and feel more control over your urges and lusts, study and memorize Scripture. Can you recite 3 different verses about sexual sin from memory? You should be able to. Study these passages. Make them your go to weapons in times of trial. Read accounts from those in the Bible who fell into sexual sin and study them. And most importantly, pray to God to help you. The key is putting our reliance on God and His Word and letting our own ideas take a backseat. Let the Spirit lead your life and you will see a difference. God bless.

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  8. The author wrote “Frequent, repeated sin is almost always a sign of lack of time spent in Scripture and prayer. ” This is my reality, going to church on Sundays and Thursdays, and only reading the bible in church.

    The author also wrote “Jesus Christ taught: “the words that I speak unto you, they are spirit, and they are life.” (John 6:63). Fill yourself with God’s Spirit! Reading the Bible daily and praying several times a day make it very, very hard to live a wild life of constant sinful rebellion.” I take this as a sure word meant for me personally right from the throne of God. May God give me the grace and faithfulness to read His word and pray daily in Jesus name Amen.

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  9. Enock kwaku Amakye says:

    i really need the grace of God to

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  10. Rebecca C says:

    Hello , im really struggling right now i turned to Christ when I was 18 and im now 21 i have backslided many times , but i am so fearful of hell, andi feel so unloved , and discouraged , it feels like work to have a relationship with God , i am prideful i dont feel completely sorry for my sins maybe because i always try to find some form of justification to fall on, i feel like one of those christians who fall away in the end times and ive heard theres absolutely no hope for them because they have rejected Christ and sinned willingly , it is so hard im addicted to my laptop i commit idolatry almost all day , watching shows , i used to smoke pot i cut it out cuz i am scared although it feels to easy to fall back to it, i feel selfish and prideful like its only about me , i feel so hopeless how can someonelike me change , i m pretty sure i havnt fully surrendered my life to God , and i dont even know if im saved , i feel like im just in a pit of mush , i feel lazy and tired and depressed and unhappy and extremely lonely , my head is constantly filled with obsessive thoughts about taking the mark of the beast and i dont know if the mark is spiritual or physical so that scares me , too , my life feels like a mess and i know that feelings are decieving but its easier said then dealing with it , please respond :(

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    • Hi Rebecca

      I was very moved by your comment . I don’t work for or represent B@E but as your fellow brother in Christ I feel the Holy Spirit telling me to respond. Everybody has these same feelings, whether it be a new believer or someone who has been a believer for a long time. Remember the Bible tells us we all fall short of the glory of God but are redeemed through Christ Jesus.

      Romans 3:23-24. 1599 Geneva Bible
      For there is no difference: for all have sinned, and are deprived of the glory of God,
      And are justified freely by his grace, through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus.

      We all sin and feel alone at times, try joining a good Bible believing Church. If your at one already then try getting involved with Church more by doing Bible studies, ministry events, anything that can bring you together with other believers and celebrate Jesus Christ. You are never alone when you follow God
      (Joshua 1:9, 2 Corinthians 2:14, Matthew 28:19-20). As far as knowing if your saved or a real Christian, see these scriptures (Romans 10:9, Matthew 10:32, John 3:16, Mark 12:30-31, John 14:1-18).
      Please search through these scriptures and then try to find more on your own and repeat them when your being tempted or having trouble. If something you own causes you to sin get rid of it. I love you and will be praying for you that Jesus Christ will fill you with the Holy Spirit and that you will gain a better understanding of His word. God bless.

      2 Corinthians 3:17 1599 Geneva Bible
      Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty.

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  11. Timchang Amos says:

    Thanks alot B & E.
    Keep up the good work and God will certainly reward your labour of love.

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  12. Aervinn Almira says:

    i don’t know if i really have any valid questions since this article answered most of it. i’ve been in a, let’s say, under the “Common Marriage Law” for a while and though I understand that it is not Biblical and sinful(which this article further stated), me and my wife is struggling to persue our plan of getting married because the means of doing it prove to be very challenging. So are we kept sinning by staying together then? by staying together means we have to fulfill each other’s duty towards each other. Please pray for us to have the means for us to finally get married and end this sinful cycle in our lives.

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  13. Aervinn Almira says:

    hi,

    i don’t know if i have any valid questions since most of it has been answered by this post. i have been on a common law of marriage term and though I understand that as non-Biblical and sinful (which this article further testitified) me and my wife however are struggling to persue our plans of getting marriage. Reason being is that the means to do it proves to be very challenging though we’ve been trying very hard for a while now. So de we kept sinning by staying together, in which term means we have to fulfill our sexual duty to each other.? may we ask for your prayer for God to show us the means to finally get married and end this cycle of sin in our lives.

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  14. I really appreciate that God has led me to read this. I know it’s not going to be easy, but I’m gonna fight my sinful nature, with the help of The Lord. I just wanted to also say to Rebecca C (not sure if it’s too late for her to read it) that she too has this help from God Almighty himself. Fight with me!! Jesus is worth it, my heart knows this very well. God bless everyone who reads this.

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  15. Thank you for making me feel good in the name of lord jesus christ I am a born christian who is experiencing the sweetness of jesus christ everyday in my life.. The word of lord makes me live I live in christ..
    Praise be to god jesus christ..
    ONE LORD
    ONE GOD
    JESUS

    -Amen

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  16. Greg Tegman says:

    I am a 56 year old male. I doubt I am a Christian. I fell into a gross sin again and feel hopeless and helpless. I am attending a healthy church founded by John MacArthur. I live in Everett WA. and I feel I have no I have any hope anymore I’ve worn down myself with hopelessness and despair. I also believe I am lost forever. I have been through this for years. I’ll be moving forward I thought b

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    • Jose Iege says:

      Hello my brother,

      The bible says a just man will fall seven times, yet will he raise again. Remember, there is nothing more powerful than words. Do not confess you are lost, even when you feel you have done the worst thing in the world, trust iin God in moments like this, we are all fighting a battle, even the ones that you think they look so upright and holy. Life is a battle my brother, this is a tasting ground, but remember Jesus gave promise of victory to the believer, it is not about how many sins you have done or how many more you will do, just surrender to him, and continually seek his mercy, it doesn’t matter what you have done, if you know in your heart that you honestly love God and you keep faling in sin, then just remember it is not you, it is the enemy trying to take you back to old nature, the master said ” he that comes to me, I in no wise will cast him out” Keep on beleveing and forget about the five senses, just live by faith, whether you make a mistake or not.

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  17. Greg Tegman says:

    I live in Everett Washington an have found myself fallen down again. Homosexual contact is my once a year fall. I don’t know why I do this, but, the horror inside of me tells me I am hopeless and helpless.

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  18. Greg Tegman says:

    I live in Everett Washington an have found myself fallen down again. Homosexual contact is my once a year fall. I don’t know why I do this, but, the horror inside of me tells me I am hopeless and helpless.

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  19. Greg Tegman says:

    Once a year I fall into a gross sexual sin. I thought I was a Christian. I am in a state of fear and hopelessness. I live in Everett Washington. Any suggestions as how to stay pure and with some sort of hope? I need to talk with a sound person…especially a Christian leader, counselor….something or someone.

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    • Greg, have no fear!! There is only one unpardonable sin, and after reading your posts I am sure you have not committed it! The only unpardonable sin is blaspheming the Holy Spirit (attributing the works of God/Jesus to Satan). There is no reason to be hopeless, but to have all the hope in the world!! I too often find myself falling into sexual sin (in fact, I am convinced this is the hardest sin for humans to overcome) I also find after I have stumbled in the darkness, I always come back to the great light! Jesus always calls me back after I have stumbled and my relationship with him grows stronger because of it. My guilty conscience (much like yours) convicts me, which is a good thing. Use that conviction of your guilty conscience to grow in your relationship with the Lord. Pray, earnestly seek his forgiveness, humble yourself before him with true repentance of heart and mind, and he shall set you free!! Jesus loves you, and does not want you removed from the fold, that is why your conscience (Spirit) convicts you today. That is God’s way of calling you back. You can be, and in fact already are forgiven, for your sins. Remember the story of the Jewish woman who was caught in the literal act of adultery. Jesus proclaims that he who is without sin may cast the first stone, and everyone leaves!! We are all sinners, in the same boat as you, in one way or the other. Jesus does not condemn the woman, but shows her unconditional love and tells her to sin no more. Much like that adulteress, you are not condemned Greg!! You are forgiven, by the love, grace and mercy that flows from the fountain of living water known as Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior. Also remember that Jesus makes clear too, that those of us the Father has given him, not one will be plucked from his hand. Although we all stray from time to time, the Good Shepherd will always find us and call us home. God Bless You

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  20. Sunny Titus says:

    Praise God B&E team,

    I’m from India. I’m from a Hindu family. I was born because of fornication. Even before my mom was married, she got pregnant, and my father, seeing this, he ran away. Never seen him since my birth, This is how I was born, such a hopeless beginning I had.
    Through God’s abundant grace & predestined plan, I encountered Christ when I was 14 years old, and since then God has lifted me from Hopelessness to a Living Hope.(even my mom is saved now, )

    From Age 14, now 22, I’ve been to different places in my city sharing my testimony and God’s Word through Open Door Ministries, India, , however after few years, I started living a horrible personal life. Sin started ruling my private life, falling and standing has become a daily routine. Even though I knew everything I did not give an ear to the silent whispers of Holy Spirit. I sinned and sinned till I thought of giving up my life, lost all hope, even though I have been going to church and bible studies, it was like some spirit was controlling my mind to do shameful things. I used to realize after sinning and then used to tell myself “wish I could have overcome”, I gave up and decided to end all this, but a small pinch of zeal towards God’s Word started disturbing me, I cried honestly in church, during a service and accepted all my wrong doings, that led to a repentance and commitment, and because of His never ending Grace my joy in the Lord and His Promise is restored in me – I practiced the same points exactly what you guys have shared,

    Knowing my condition, repenting, Committing Myself, Getting rid of all my friends and sources that led me to sin & calling upon God again & again.

    B&E, I’ve been reading your articles past few days. Truly I can say that His Spirit is leading you’ll to share the right Word. Praise God.

    Continue to pray for me and will do the same for your team too…right now, through Gods grace I’m an employee now, however I have a great desire to serve God full time, please pray about that.

    A big thank you B&E, I’m really blessed by your articles, the articles your team is sharing is truly filled with ‘Spirit & Life’, and all glory to Jesus for appointing you’ll as ‘Internet Fishermen’ sharing His Word, leading and strengthening souls in Christ.

    Glory to Jesus.

    {All readers of B&E I would like to say that this article is 100% scriptural & true,. This has worked in my life and will do the same in all of your lives, if you put your trust in JESUS,.}

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  21. Patricia says:

    Thank you so much for this article! I am a sinner saved by the grace of God holding onto His promises and His correction, a work in progress! God bless your work for Him!

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    • Amen Patricia, never forget…

      Philippians 4:13 1599 Geneva Bible
      I am able to do all things through the help of Christ, which stengtheneth me.

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  22. Greg Tegman says:

    I really need this every hour and every day…DAILY !!! How about you. Life is short. Hell is forever!!!!!. I am talking to myself. The challenge is, Can I stay this way “DAILY” ?

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    • Hi Greg

      First off let me start by saying: Grace be with you, and peace from God our Father, and from the Lord Jesus Christ.
      You said, ” the challenge is, can I stay this way DAILY”? First, we all fall short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23) . But, scripture makes it clear that all things are possible with God (Matthew 19:26). We must trust the word of God, for it is mighty, lively and sharper than any two edged sword (Hebrews 4:12). The word tells us that we have a great high Priest, the Son of God our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, who knows all our feelings and was tempted just as we are yet without sin, and because of that we can look to the throne for grace in a time of need (Hebrews 4:14-16).
      When we are tempted by sin it’s because we are enticed by our own lusts (James 1:14). So in these times we need faith to look past the sin, and to look towards Jesus Christ, because he is the finisher of our faith (Hebrews 12:2). I would suggest to read the Bible daily, as much as you can each day. God’s word can get you through anything, and will help you succeed in your good works (2 Timothy 3: 15-17), and it never fades (Isaiah 40:8). So my verdict is, that you can do it brother. I will be praying for your walk with Jesus Christ. I would suggest to search through these scriptures I gave you and try to find some of your own that can help you deal with sin and temptation. We all sin brother, but with Christ’s strength, we can do anything. God bless

      Philippians 4:13 1599 Geneva Bible
      I am able to do all things through the help of Christ, which strengtheneth me.

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  23. Thank you so much the scripture is right on the money you have helped me so much through JESUS FOR ME TO FIND THIS SITE WAS GOD SENT I THANK GOD SO MUCH FOR ALL WAYS SENDING ME TO THE RIGHT PLACE PLEASE PRAY FOR ME THAT I WILL BE STRONG WITH JESUS HELP TO OVER COME SIN IN MY LIFE

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  24. Conrad says:

    THIS IS REAL…I HAVE JUST READ HALF OF IT …BUY A CHRISTIAN IS NOT A SINNER…THOUGH HE MIGHT SIN…WHAT MAKES A SINNER,A SINNER IS THE NATURE…BUT WE ARE BORN OF GOD WE HAVE THE NATURE OF CHRIST…ALL WE NEED TO DO IS TO RENEW OUR MINDS…

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  25. Ernest Davis says:

    This is exactly what I needed. Encouraging and very thoughtful.Guilt was always a staple that kept me from realizing how wonderful and powerful the LORD’S amazing grace and forgiveness is.

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  26. Pat Mali says:

    Thank you Beginning and End it’s like you are talking to me,I am a born again Christian I’ve sinned again,I am even afraid to pray and ask for forgiveness,maybe I’m bothering God now and maybe he’s tired of me, How do I repent? please help me.

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    • Hi Pat,

      Thanks so much for your comments. There is NEVER any reason to be scared to pray. Remember, you have done nothing to earn your salvation and nothing to earn your privilege to approach God’s throne in prayer. It was all done by Jesus Christ. If you believe in Jesus Christ and truly trust in His sacrifice on the cross for you, then stop putting the emphasis on yourself. Jesus is worthy. And by His grace, you are worthy in Him. You are all forgiven, in Him. You are cleaned, in Him.

      1 John says: “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” Notice it says if we confess our sins God is 1) faithful – meaning He will always do it and 2) Just – meaning He is fully justified in forgiving all your sins. How is this possible? Because Jesus took the punishment for them.

      So do not hesitate. Pray to God and confess your sins. And seek forgiveness on the basis of Jesus, not on the basis of your own “goodness” or promises to try harder, etc. And know that you are indeed forgiven. And beyond that, fill yourself with God’s Spirit. Read and study your Bible, pray often, find a Bible-believing church where you can build yourself in the knowledge of God, fellowship and learn from believers and serve God in ministry. All of these things will help you serve the spirit more than the flesh. I hope that helps and I am praying for you. God bless. -B&E

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      • Thank you for praying for me please continue to pray I want to get close to JESUS AND DO WHAT HE WANTS ME TO DO I STILL MAKE MISTAKES BUT I KNOW HE STILL LOVE ME

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  27. Kivumbi Michael says:

    Please send me that article via email it will surely benefit many brothers and sisters who can not access the internet this way.thank you.

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  28. Magnifique poste, comme d’hab

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  29. I have back sled and sined a very bad sin like sex with my self and realy truely would love to stop that but can not do it on my owne please. help me stop doing this please this is from my heart I am so sad and so is god how can I be truely forgiven by the father the son and the holy goast when thank you robert rowden

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    • Hi Robert,

      Thank you for your comments. I would recommend following what the article says. If you want forgiveness, get on your knees, confess your sins to God, and ask for it. And if you want to stop sinning, you have to start removing those things lead you to sin. It is very rare for sexual sin to take place without some type of stimulus, whether it is a person, picture, movie, etc. Something normally leads a person into sexual lust. Whatever it is that leads you, is your private business, but you should work to remove it from your life. In whatever way is feasible for you. And continue to pray to God for strength to resist the temptation when it shows up.

      “Elias was a man subject to like passions as we are, and he prayed earnestly that it might not rain: and it rained not on the earth by the space of three years and six months.” – James 5:17.

      Elijah, the great prophet of God, who did so many amazing miracles was a “man subject to like passions as we are..” In other words, Elijah was dealing with all the same sinful temptations and lust we are dealing with today. And what did he do? PRAYED. He prayed for no rain because of the sin of his nation. He prayed for no rain to show God he was serious about repenting and his people repenting and turning back to God. Seek God early and often each day. Study your Bible daily. Fill your mind with Christ and less of the things that bring you back to sin. God will do all the rest to reshape you into the child He wants you to be. God bless.

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    • You mean you masturbated? That is actually normal even kids, toddlers do it. They have no longer of sex but it normal to bee curious about your body and how it functions but obvoously your an adult so why do you think masturbation is wrong?

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  30. Great article. I really needed to see this. I have recently rededicated my life to Christ. My biggest struggle has always been fornication. i just feel so weak and powerless sometimes. I also feel terrible when I backslide. I see that I must get rooted in the word. It is just so difficult sometimes. My question is what do I do about the shame and guilt I feel about sinning after I have repented.

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  31. pray for me that God would put a person in my life to help me, a good Christian counselor, sexual sin and pornography is ruining my life.the guilt and shame is overwhelming

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    • I know how you feel I’ve been saved since I was about 28 years old I’m know 50 I have struggled with this sin for years I still fall short and comit this sin from time to time I feel so bad when I do I need to get rid of all art phones and tablets in my house there a temptation I pray and I know GOD will help me but I haft to help my self to please pray for me to GOD bless you

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  32. Hi everyone,
    I’ve given my life to Jesus. Yet I struggle with sin frequently. Jesus has given me strength to stop fornicating and my husband and I have gotten married. I struggled with masterbation since I was very young. But I came across an article about masterbation even while being married, it led me to understand the damage that I was doing in my marriage. I was convicted to stop doing that. I use to smoke pot daily and now I don’t do that either. My husband still smokes pot daily and yet with the grace God has given me I have little to no urges to do that. I use to be moved to rage easily, I’d curse and yell and feel so much hate it was awful. My Savior has done so much in my life I rarely am moved to anger like that. And even when I do get angry l don’t get enraged as I use to. My God has done and still is doing a work in me. One night while I was at work I was praying and crying out to my God and His presence was felt. I had peace in that moment and I knew that my God my Savior is real and alive. While feeling such peace I went outside for a cigarette and as I was standing there asking myself what is this peace that I have, it started pouring raining hard out of nowhere. The wind blew joy and love and gratitude for my God blew into my heart. I have never had any experience or feelings such as this. i know without a doubt that my Savior is alive and He hears me. Even with that experience and the love of Jesus in me I still am having trouble quitting smoking cigarettes and I feel as though I’m being moved to tithe. Also I think I should find some service to tend to in my church but it’s difficult because I work the night shift at my job. I also am struggling with reading the word and studying it daily. Please pray for me brothers and sisters. I’ll pray for you as well. Don’t give up our Lord hears us and answers our prayers. I live in Ohio in the middle of nowhere but my Lord hears me and answers my prayers. This path is never easy but I won’t give up and neither should you. Paul said in Romans 8:38 – and I am convinced that NOTHING can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels or demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries for tomorrow– not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. Praise God!!!

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  33. Thank u for this help I struggled needed to know how to deal with temptation of fornication with my ex husband that won’t leave his mothers that’s why were divorce but I am involved in a relationship hoping for a marriage proposal that God will bless. I knew these principals of the law of being obedient I just wasn’t putting them into practice. Thank you

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  34. Hey Beginning and End your article is useful me.
    Thanks for you best ideas in this article !

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  35. Ndung'u says:

    I appreciate the living counsel on overcoming sin.This goes along way in helping me

    offer my body as a living sacrifice unto the Lord as an acceptable service to Him.

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  36. Pray for me as I am born again but lately I failed God because I have watched porn on-line and I really do not feel comfortable with it but sometimes watching it and lusting gets the better of me. Please say a prayer for me that God will help me to stop lusting and watching this garbage! Thank you so much

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  37. Hello B&E, i have asked you for advice regarding my revelations but no answer yet.
    I really want to know the source,
    I believe your analysis and that’s why i felt u worthy for advice.

    Plz, if possible, write to me so that i ask you again

    jscsaves@gmail.com

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  38. Very good post. I will be dealing with a few
    of these issues as well..

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  39. I am thankful for this article, i cried while i was reading it because i had fallen to exactly the same things but im now tired of fighting alone, im seeking help from the elders at church and whenever i think about these things i punish my mind by going to study the word of God and praying even more….Deliverance is our portion for we are the righteousness of God through Christ Jesus!!….Thank God for you B&E people

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  40. Mooos: I am thankful for this article, i cried while i was reading it because i had fallen to exactly the same things but im now tired of fighting alone, im seeking help from the elders at church and whenever i think about these things i punish my mind by going to study the word of God and praying even more….Deliverance is our portion for we are the righteousness of God through Christ Jesus!!….Thank God for you B&E people

    Hey Mooos,

    Thanks you so much for your comment and testimony. It brings this passage to mind:

    Deliver me from bloodguiltiness, O God, thou God of my salvation: and my tongue shall sing aloud of thy righteousness. 15 O Lord, open thou my lips; and my mouth shall shew forth thy praise. 16 For thou desirest not sacrifice; else would I give it: thou delightest not in burnt offering. 17 The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit: a broken and a contrite heart, O God, thou wilt not despise.- Psalm 51:14-17

    I praise God for your comments Mooos. Mourning and weeping over our sin (something I have definitely done) is what God desires from us and shows your desire for repentance. I pray that you keep fighting the good fight through Jesus Christ and His Word. God bless you abundantly. -B&E

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  41. This is a great article. I too fall short and have sinned. I have been a christian for many years and have been having trouble with stopping cigarettes. I also had stopped drinking a for over a year and little by little have been having a beer here and there and for the last two weeks have been drinking heavily. I have been experiencing financial difficulties due to job loss and am in jeopardy of losing my home which I feel may have triggered my drinking again. I am feeling very guilty and have prayed for forgiveness, but I am feeling not worthy. Please pray for me, a job and that I do not lose my home or my family. I believe in Jesus Christ and am not ashamed of the Gospel. I need encouragement.

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  42. Please pray for me. I was saved many years ago then I fell into a very immoral sexual lifestyle. I did many of the horrible sins for years, why did I do them? I hate myself. I’ve gotten very sick over this. I pray that God will forgive me and that there’s grace enough for me. I’m so very sorry for what I’ve done. I’m ashamed.

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    • Hi Patricia,

      There is always grace when you seek it. Never doubt God’s love or capacity to forgive. “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from ALL unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9). God is FAITHFUL to forgive, meaning, He will ALWAYS do it. The fact that you feel shame is the first step:

      O Lord, open thou my lips; and my mouth shall shew forth thy praise. 16 For thou desirest not sacrifice; else would I give it: thou delightest not in burnt offering. 17 The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit: a broken and a contrite heart, O God, thou wilt not despise. – Psalm 51:15-17.

      Your broken heart over your sin is what The Lord wants. It is acknowledging you have fallen short and calling on Him for mercy. So cry out for forgiveness in prayer and believe in it. Do not let your guilt consume you and prevent you from serving The Lord. Do not wonder if you are worthy. NONE of us our worthy (myself definitely included). It is only Jesus Christ who is worthy and we are forgiven and blessed in Him.

      I have prayed for your spiritual walk and continued growth in Christ. Take the example from this article to heart. Seek God in Bible study, prayer and church and conform your lifestyle to please God, not your lusts. And let the Spirit of God continue to renew your mind and help you win your battles with sinful temptation. God bless.

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  43. I really need help on my condition is sexual behaviour it all started when I was ten and I look eat nude pictures of since then I have been addicted to pornography and masterbating. I guess it was curiosity that led me to it and now I am addicted I am willing to stop until I go on the Internet and search up stuff I am not ment to. The longest I have gone without watching porn and masterbating was 1 month I can not get over the fact that it felt so good not to do it for a month. However, I back slides into the same sin again please help me. Today I watched porn and I felt guilty so I was looking for help on the Internet and found this article. I thank god that I found it i also thank him for giving allowing u to make this article please help me.

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    • Hi,
      You do know that masturbation is a healthy normal human function right? Babies, children even masturbate though parents stop them before it becomes a bad habit because kids don’t understand that its something you dont do when young or in public.

      As for your addiction to porn, do you have a hobby like biking or joining a book club? You obviously are a christian so like many on this site will probably tell you is to read the bible or go to a meeting for people who suffer from porn addiction or do both.

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  44. Thank you for this post!! I was looking for info on feeling remorse for backsliding and found this article just what I needed. I will use this in my personal bible study!:)

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  45. I do agree whit the methored by always stay in God sprit but I to agree that lust is the most difficult sin to give up and when n persone is not married en is alone then a persone do attend to feel that you need someons arms around you feeling flesh next to you but people that are not alone and by yourself will understand how it feels. To me it is a grate battle field when it comes to lust because a persone feels alone. I’m am very happy to have come to this wepside to see answers. But I don’t want to begin a war but let me tell you waht the spirit of God said. That the curches is worshiping the wrong God. Please people you have to study the word but ask God for seeing the answers why I say so. So if you are worshiping the wrong God then my question will be that if you ask the wrong God if your prayers would be answered. Come out of her my people. We have an opbligation to God. To defnatly repent that means get clean of mind soul and body if you realy want to get into the Kingdom of God and God said in His word. Don’t be afraid because He will be with you. If you obey His commandments and love your neighbour as yourself. We have to turn back to God time is running out things on earth is going to get worse more temtations and more lustfull things it sould be a defnate desition Jesus is comeing to rule on earth as King. There is no rapture. Only when He will come and collect His children on the four coners of the earth. Me and my sisters and brothers in Jesus are syudying the bible for almost 4 jaers with the Holy Spirits help and what we have come across is that satan realy have decieved the world by lieing to so many things and people and one of them is churches the churches is fallowing pagan believe and doctrines look it up for youselfs all domination is daughters of the grate babilon the grate hore which The Mighty God is going to destroy. Please look it up for youselfs go and see where they get there doctrines from. It will be rome. The romen empire which has never left and Which is ghangeing protestand churches why is the Protestand churches not protesting anymore and why is there no miricals in the chuches today where is the power of God in the churches today why is it when you say in the name of jesus that that man standup from his weelchair and is running because if God heals a persone he is healed directly. God say my people is going under because of a lack of wisdom. Poeple please this is a warning to the humans of this world. The only faith is In The Lord Jesus Christ and our hope to be saved. Things are happening under your nose and you don’t see it. Wakeup and realise that the hole world is deceived exsept Gods real children which is written in the book of life. Our task is not to make you convert or to ghange your minds ist there to warn you and we are also there to remind you of Gods love for you as a sinner and that He is comeing soon to heal everything and make this world a place of how it sould have been for the start The Lord Jesus Christ is not bringing peace as yet because He is bringing the sword. We are going throu the tribulations be prepared the way of our Lord Jesus Christ. But first dustruction will come. World war 3. Why is that christians allways want to hear good news and ignore the bad news. Why is it that most of the people are hardining there hearts and ears. Don’t you think that tere will be a end to suffering sins and unholyness the word of God is testefing to all thees things I have talled you. The word of God is a lovestory that He has written for His children. We have to realy seek Gods Face and do what He says. I myself testefing on my own soul that what I said on this wepside is the hole truth and nothing but the truth and be the spirit of God testefing to it as we’ll for me and my house we serve the Lord and also admitting our sins of lust and not obeyiing because of satans wraft falling on us because of this truth. Please heed to this warning. And remmember that God Loves us if we love Him back. And not foresake Him. Hold fast to Him. So also did Jesus ressurect on sabbath day saterday kill wensday rose saterday 72 ours in the belly of the earth. As Joan was 3 days and nights in the belly of the wale satan talled everbody a big lie. Seach the scriptures and ask God for the Holy spirit to help you. If anyone wants to know more please feel free to contact me ad charmainedjager@gmail.com. God Bless and keep you save and make us all strong in Hos light. We will keep on praying to God for mercy. Please feel free to contact me we have evidents to proof it. To proof all of it. We pray that the workers will be more for the havest.

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  46. Wow, thanks for this article, I really needed it. I am addicted to pornograpghy and masturbation. I found relief from my favorite preacher, joyce meyer. I’m a big fan of her books. But suddenly I couldn’t read her books again or the bible even and commit those atrocities with those books by my side. I have failed God several times, I feel so down. Who said masturbation wasnt a sin…didnt christ say looking at a woman lustfully alone is sin. Masturbation is simply fulfilling the lust of the flesh. GOD help me. I know his grace is sufficient for me.

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  47. Hi Y’all, I have really serious misgivings about all this. Namely ‘sin; seems to be focused primarily on ‘sins of the flesh’…
    It seems like a cruel hoax, to create us as flesh, with an endocrine system, glands and hormones…
    For Me I believe this is where I lost my faith.
    I was born into a Christian, catholic family, went through catholic education, but I also had a sexual nature, even from a young age, which innately contradicted everything I was taught.
    One of my earliest memories was being violently assaulted at primary school by the parish priest, I’d ben caught out down the back of the school ‘exploring’ with a girl.
    I’ve struggled with shame and guilt all my life and havehad a compelling fascination for all things sexual in nature.
    I was deprived of my innocence at a young age also, at the hands of an older man, which confused me, as it actually felt pretty good!
    I made the choice around puberty to disown the church, there seemed too much disparity, contradiction in what I was told and how I felt.
    The shame and the guilt have never left me, I have always been sexually inadequete, almost obsessed with sex, yet unable to develop proper relationships with women, my thoughts and desires turn inward and I am further isolated from true love of another.
    So I can see why Christianity is so unpopular and how overt sexuality is on the rise, it goes against our animal nature which is inherent in us all, creates a contradiction…
    I found it really hard to read the body of the text here, just pray. It so took me back to the days of my religious indoctrination, to the priests (who were later convicted as paedophiles, although not me {wonder what I did wrong, perhaps I wasn’t good enough}).
    Anyway, now I am struggling witht the whole concept of sin.
    I agree, do no harm to others, that is how I live my life.
    I’m not saying I am not a Christian, however according to the text I am doomed to eternal damnation anyway. I’m pretty sure in my years of doubt and pain I have denied God and juxtaposed satanic ways.
    Another memory is skipping church service, we were told it was a mortal sin to miss mass. I did, so I was doomed from the beginning.
    Still in the context of sin, I do not understand how we are born in sin, and how all men are sinners? Sorry I just don’t get that.
    I thought there was some kind of leniency on Gods behalf, because we were flesh?
    I remember going to confession, ganging up with my mates and deciding in advance what we were going to confess to, imagine an 8 yr old confessing adultery…
    But the point is, how can we digress and be forgiven again and again?
    Surely that is not repentance. I’m sorry God (but I’ll do it again and I know you will forgive me).
    It’s easier to live a life of ‘sin’ and repent at the last possible moment.
    I know to myself what is a sin, what harms others, and what makes me feel bad and I do try to live these guidelines.
    I have no faith in religious institutions and by proxy have difficulty accepting any Mans word.
    Maybe I’m self serving, arguing from my selfish point of view, perhaps I’m picking the eyes out of religious texts to suit myself.
    It really throws me when I read ‘pray harder etc’ how many steps away is that from scourging yourself?
    Which is the greater sin, denial of nature, or self flagellation?
    I really feel for the younger members of this community, bless them all, struggling with very real issues, really how helpful is it to tell a horny teenager to pray? Certainly didn’t work for me, in fact just made a mess of my ife, which I’m still living with to this day…
    Please, to any who may wish to respond to this, it has taken me 40 years to come to terms with all of this, I came to hate religion, but I believe I always knew God.
    In other ways I’ve led a ‘charmed’ life, like someone has been watching over me and my family…
    But please don’t hate me because I have spoken my mind, I’m not heretic, just as honest as I can be.
    Love to all.

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    • Hi Stephen,

      Thanks for your comments. I would like to address some of your points:


      “Hi Y’all, I have really serious misgivings about all this. Namely ‘sin; seems to be focused primarily on ‘sins of the flesh’… It seems like a cruel hoax, to create us as flesh, with an endocrine system, glands and hormones… For Me I believe this is where I lost my faith. I was born into a Christian, catholic family, went through catholic education, but I also had a sexual nature, even from a young age, which innately contradicted everything I was taught. One of my earliest memories was being violently assaulted at primary school by the parish priest, I’d ben caught out down the back of the school ‘exploring’ with a girl. I’ve struggled with shame and guilt all my life and havehad a compelling fascination for all things sexual in nature. I was deprived of my innocence at a young age also, at the hands of an older man, which confused me, as it actually felt pretty good! I made the choice around puberty to disown the church, there seemed too much disparity, contradiction in what I was told and how I felt.”

      First off, I am very, very sorry for the abuse you suffered as a child. It is a horrible thing and clearly not your fault as you were victimized by someone who was using their position in their church for sinful gain. But to get to your point about having hormones and physical desires being a “cruel hoax” – it should be clear that in the Bible sex in and of itself is not a sin. It is just to be done within the parameters God set out for us. Sex is to be restricted to marriage. Hebrews 13:4 says: “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Sexual activity between a husband and wife is not a sin in any way. So yes, we have desires, and well we should because it is by sexual intimacy that the human race perpetuates itself. But sex is only honorable when done according to God’s very clear parameters.

      We are all born with hunger. That doesn’t mean that we can eat glass or drink gasoline and say “well I was made with an appetite and these items were here..so it’s God fault I ate them.” We have our own set parameters on what is safe to eat and what is not. By your logic any predator could be justified in their abuse because they can simply blame it on hormones. That does not excuse our own volition and free will. We choose sin. There are no excuses.

      As for you disowning the church, it sounds like you were in a Roman Catholic church. As has been stated many times on this website, the Roman Catholic Church is a political institution that has very little to do with Biblical Christianity. So you were not getting a representation in your studies of what the Bible is saying, from an accuracy standpoint. There are no “confessionals” in the Bible. Nor are there special priests, nuns, popes, mass services, confirmation, infant baptism, prayers to Mary, prayers to “saints”, indulgences and many other number of wildly unbiblical practices that are done by the Catholic church on a regular basis.

      “The shame and the guilt have never left me, I have always been sexually inadequete, almost obsessed with sex, yet unable to develop proper relationships with women, my thoughts and desires turn inward and I am further isolated from true love of another.
      So I can see why Christianity is so unpopular and how overt sexuality is on the rise, it goes against our animal nature which is inherent in us all, creates a contradiction…
      I found it really hard to read the body of the text here, just pray. It so took me back to the days of my religious indoctrination, to the priests (who were later convicted as paedophiles, although not me {wonder what I did wrong, perhaps I wasn’t good enough}).
      Anyway, now I am struggling witht the whole concept of sin.
      I agree, do no harm to others, that is how I live my life.”


      The shame and guilt of abuse is one of the hardest feelings in the world to conquer. But just know that any abuse you suffered as a child is not your fault. You were the victim. But also know that there is free forgiveness in Jesus Christ. The Bible says: “Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.” (2 Corinthians 5:17). This is what God wants for you. To let the spirit of this fallen world that is in you pass away and give you a new spirit, born of God, that seeks to please The Lord because you are at peace with The Lord. That is what being “born again” means. And this is what comes with true, Biblical salvation. But that starts with acknowledging your sin. And I am not referring to the abuse in your childhood. I am talking about sins you willingly committed through your life. The “struggle with sin” people have as a concept emerges for one reason – people do not want to think of themselves as sinners. The idea of being guilty for the many thousands of sins we have committed through the years and then one day being judged for them by a Holy and Just God is very repulsive. The thought of going to Hell and burning in the lake of fire is also an unpleasant idea. So the most immediate response is to just reject and deny them. Either by saying God doesn’t exist or making up our own God that we are personally comfortable with (and who overlooks our own sin). When you say things like “Do not harm anyone..that’s the way I live” it is an attempt to justify yourself. You are putting yourself in the position of God and declaring yourself innocent and “good.” This is a deception. The Bible is clear that we all fallen short of the glory of God. The book of Hebrews says: “it is appointed unto men once to die, then judgment.” The reality is that we are going to be judged for our sins. And that God, being a just judge, must give out punishment for every sin we committed. Including myself and the many thousands of sins I have committed and still commit. So what can we do to save ourselves from this fate? NOTHING. There is no action or good deed that can save us. Living a life where we “do no harm” to others will not excuse our many sins. What can save us faith in Jesus Christ. The Lord Jesus Christ came to this Earth in a human body to do what we could not – live a sin free life and offer Himself as a just sacrifice to pay for our sins. The Bible is clear that Jesus Christ was “tempted in all ways, yet without sin.” Jesus had glands, hormones and all those organs and yet didn’t sin. And in doing so, He was able to stand in my place to receive the punishment I deserve, on the cross. And this how we can be forgiven. This is who we can experience God’s salvation and receive a new spirit as a new creature in Jesus Christ. This is how we can overcome the pain, depression and anxiety of our past. But it starts with faith. You have to get to know God through the Bible, not through a priest or an institution. Pray to God for understanding. Ask and it will be given.


      “I’m not saying I am not a Christian, however according to the text I am doomed to eternal damnation anyway. I’m pretty sure in my years of doubt and pain I have denied God and juxtaposed satanic ways. Another memory is skipping church service, we were told it was a mortal sin to miss mass. I did, so I was doomed from the beginning. Still in the context of sin, I do not understand how we are born in sin, and how all men are sinners? Sorry I just don’t get that. I thought there was some kind of leniency on Gods behalf, because we were flesh?”

      For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. – John 3:16.

      I question if you have a full understanding of the Gospel message of the Bible. If you believe in Jesus Christ you are not “going to hell anyways.” You are saved from the wrath of God and promised eternal life. There are no “mortal sins.” This is just a man-made term and concept that is never found in the Bible. This is precisely why it’s critical to know Christianity from the Word of God and not the words of men. As for a sinful nature – it is what we received from our original parent, Adam. It’s just the propensity to sin (which we all have). We still have to choose to carry out whatever act it is.

      “But the point is, how can we digress and be forgiven again and again?
      Surely that is not repentance. I’m sorry God (but I’ll do it again and I know you will forgive me).
      It’s easier to live a life of ‘sin’ and repent at the last possible moment.”


      We can sin and be forgiven because God is our FATHER. That is what good, loving, merciful fathers do – they forgive their children over and over again. A good father is not going to disown their child the 10th time they do something wrong. They are going to keep forgiving them and loving them. Now if corrupt, sinful humans are capable of such mercy, imagine the mercy and love of God who is perfect and whose love is “everlasting.” That is who we are forgiven. God is outside of time. He sees our end from the beginning. When you are a born again Christian, you receive the righteous, sinless life of Christ as your own “record”. Thus God does not see you as just the sum of the sinful flesh, but instead sees the beautiful, divinely-made spirit you receive at salvation, that has no sin and will never sin. It’s only our sinful body which retains the sin nature as a Christian. And that body will not be going to Heaven. It will be shed at death and then a believer will eventually be given a new, perfect body free of a sin nature.

      Thinking you can sin your life away and “repent at the last moment” is yet another self-deceptive game to play. How sincere would your profession of faith be if you knowingly reject God with the intent to try and get saved in your last breath? This does not mean that people cannot be saved on their death bed. or on death row. It happens all the time. Facing death makes it a lot easier to think about your eternal fate.

      The other delusion with this idea is that it presumes that you know when you are going to die. You don’t. Do not take it for granted that you will live another 40 years on this Earth. You and I could both die today. So thinking that you’ll come to God when you’re an elderly man, sitting in bed, is a questionable idea at best. Do not wait to secure your eternal destiny.


      “Maybe I’m self serving, arguing from my selfish point of view, perhaps I’m picking the eyes out of religious texts to suit myself. It really throws me when I read ‘pray harder etc’ how many steps away is that from scourging yourself?
      Which is the greater sin, denial of nature, or self flagellation? I really feel for the younger members of this community, bless them all, struggling with very real issues, really how helpful is it to tell a horny teenager to pray? Certainly didn’t work for me, in fact just made a mess of my ife, which I’m still living with to this day…”

      I have to respectfully disagree here. I do not believe for a moment that prayer is what ruined your life. It was sin. The sins of others and your own later. You mock the power of prayer because you do not have faith. Romans 10:17 says:“So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.” You do not have faith because you do not know God’s Word. No born again Christian would mock prayer. It is how we commune with God. No one who “knows” the God of the Bible, would speak of prayer like you do. How else can you share your thoughts with God absent prayer? how can you cast all your concerns and trouble at God’s feet without prayer? I again submit, that the God you know is an idol – a “god” you have molded to suit your lifestyle. This is a danger because it keeps you from worshiping the true God and acknowledging your sin.

      You also raise a straw man argument by saying “how does telling someone ‘pray harder’ help?” This article did not say “pray harder.” So your just trying to diminish it by attacking points that were never mentioned.

      Please know I do not hate you. I actually care about you and want you to go to Heaven. There is nothing more I want for you. And I’m praying for you. I truly hope that you will humble yourself and pray to God for forgiveness. I also hope that you start to read the Bible with an open heart and mind. And then you can meet the real God of the Bible and experience His grace.

      “Whosoever shall call upon the name of The Lord shall be saved.” – Romans 10:13.

      How To Get To Heaven
      http://beginningandend.com/how-to-get-to-heaven/

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      • I think you have misunderstood me, and rushed to reply missing the point I was trying to make.
        Perhaps I was not particularly lucid, this being an emotional topic for me etc.
        Yes I am cynical but you have cherry picked my text and replied to suit your own needs.
        I’m not going back to defend myself on a word for word basis but you have misinterpreted me.
        Have a deep breath and read it again…
        Sorry this was not meant to be a personal attack, I had a lot more insight to offer.
        Did.

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        • I still disagree, although I’m sure you will correct me, my instinct tells me that is for the benefit of younger readers.
          To be sure, you will never find me in a church or belonging to a religion if this is what you peddle.
          I don’t believe for a secong God created us to be burdened with guilt and shame, to be fearful and afraid of our own natural desire to further the species.
          I have other Christain forums that have responded in a far more generous way, discussing my points, not just negating them with self serving quotes.
          You read a lot into my comments and I felt you dealt with them unfairly, what I would call a win-lose scenario.
          I won’t be back.

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  48. For some time I’ve been struggling with watching porn. It isn’t something I do daily, but probably once a month and I usually watch for hours. Its very shameful and its like the desire is given into so quickly. Im not sure what to do, and I’m not sure where I stand with God because of this. I might do good then slip up again.

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    • Hi Y,

      If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from ALL unrighteousness. – 1 John 1:8-9.

      If you truly believe the Gospel of Jesus Christ and confess your sins, God will forgive you of ALL of them. That is where you stand. All Christians sin as long as we are housed in our sinful flesh. This does not give us a license to sin freely. But it does make us vulnerable to temptation. This article was written to help you battle that temptation. If you take it seriously, then apply the Biblical principles found in it and pray to God for help with battling temptation. You can indeed overcome sin. Many people in Scripture did. Maybe you will not completely defeat your porn-sinful issue, but you can certainly make great steps in battling it. Trust in God and remove the sinful influences from your sight. Give God more room, and the Devil much less. Spiritual warfare takes a mature approach to the faith. Daily Bible study. Daily Prayer. Attending a Bible believing church. Sharing the Gospel. Taking these critical steps will go along way in your battle. And of course repentance, repentance and more repentance. I am praying for you. May God bless you abundantly. -B&E

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  49. I understand that the only way we can get rid of any sin and its tgoughts is PRAYER.Its powerful.Pray to our lord.He can do amazing things.l believe..God I believe in your power.Amen.

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  50. Onthehumble says:

    Very thorough and encouraging. As an someone that is continuing to fight on and over come his past addictive ways and temptations, I found the scripture references good verses to memorize and the account of king Josiah a good teaching tool. Thanks for your work and diligence in the Faith

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  51. Hey Onthehumble,

    Thanks for your comments. Praise God that you found encouragement in the article. Realize our need to overcome sin is the humility needed for God to work on our hearts. May God continue to strengthen you as you grow in Christ Jesus and pick up your cross. God bless.

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